Recently I was talking online in a thread that turned to porn and trotted out the old "Porn causes addiction, and people seek harder porn as they might seek harder drugs" line. I mentioned that this was never the case with me. I don't look at porn nearly as much as I used to, for one, and for another, I'm not hopelessly obsessed with gonzo (which is where I'd definitely be these days if the theory were true.) I've also observed similar things in my lovers: we like certain things and go looking for those things, rather than "graduating" from our own preferences to those of our porny overlords.
The response was pithy snark:
Dude, over time everyone’s fantasies are dictated by porn. They may seek their own fantasies out at first, but porn use tends to escalate in nearly everyone.Bleak indeed! I guess I'll be jilling off to Max Hardcore when I'm sixty, then. Maybe the process is just slow.
Of course, I asked for the proof, and got an answer: Simply consult the almighty Google!
There have been so many studies about people’s porn use “escalating” that I’m sure you could Google a few thousand. Porn is more like drugs or booze than books; it’s a taboo, it’s tied to pleasure, etc. That means escalation is very, very likely. And I can tell you that every dude I know who is willing to discuss his porn use will admit to escalation.You can't make this shit up.
That's the thing that gets me, really. These people feel totally comfortable stating something as fact, but when pressed can't even remember the name of any study that even supposedly proves them right.
Where I come from that's called believing old wives' tales, and about as silly as thinking that waving dead chickens over warts will cure them, but apparently it's been proven to them...